i was talking to a cousin the other day about this blog. and he was all like: why don’t you write more often? and why don’t you write about this and that..?
it made me think about how limited our time is.
and how i always used to come up with thousands of new year’s resolutions... i used to start with some nice, attainable goals. then, well...
i don't know. maybe it's just that i'd get a little too excited and my list would end up something like this:
- go out with my friends more often
- read more
- join a book club
- go out on dates with my husband every week
- actually send real Christmas cards this year (yeah, i always regret not having started it earlier - oh, and now it's too late and they won't be getting it before Christmas anyway.. so what's the point?)
- work out on a daily basis
- start a business
- take up an old hobby (like photography)
- writing lots of emails to my long distance friends every week/month
- visit my in-laws once a week
- work extra hours to save for a car upgrade
- sleep more hours
- volunteer at our local church
- take an online course on applied finance
- start a blog and post regularly
- pay off the house
- completely change my eating habits
- have a baby
- learn how to play the guitar
- help with advertising my husband’s business
- write a book
- learn French
- run my first half marathon
- travel around the world in 80 days...
and you know me.. i am all for those things, really. i am.
and i guess when we all think about new year’s resolutions, we normally go for the 10+ list of things we must add to our regular (and most likely already full) schedule without leaving our current responsibilities unattended.
but let’s face it: there is not enough time to do everything we want! i mean.. seriously, i’d love to be able to accomplish every single thing I want in life, but there just isn’t time to do them all.
i don’t know about you, but i used to do that. i used to write these 10+, 20+, 100+ lists before the new year came and surprise, surprise!, i didn’t even remember most of what was in there by February! so, what are resolutions good for anyway if you don’t even know that you can actually commit to doing them after all?
i have been doing things differently for the past few years, though, and it has been working fine for me. i'm sure some people would think i don't feel extra inspired or maybe that i aim too low to avoid disappointment. but it's definitely not it - i guess am a lot more focused now than i have ever been and i'm proud to to say that i am actually getting things done. less things. important things.
i have learned to prioritize.
and frankly, i am getting pretty damn good at it :)
i have come to realize that wanting too many things done at once is probably the best way to get absolutely nothing done. and it is such a waste of time to think anyone could multitask to that extent...
i’m not a huge expert on the matter, but when playing darts, i've been taught to aim the dart point to the area i wanted to hit. that's because when you’re not sure where you wanna hit, you get distracted and focus on many places at the same time... which will, more often than not, cause you to completely miss the target. i guess the same thing happens in life.
and i am sure we can all relate to it at some point in our lives.
we've all been there.. there's always a season in our lives in which we can’t seem to fully commit to anything.. we start new projects with lots of enthusiasm and end up quitting almost as fast as we had started.
until i decided i didn't want to keep making the same mistake over and over again.
and i guess it's all about understanding that when we choose something, we are inevitably forced to say no to something else.
[just in case you were wondering why i don't write on this blog all that often]
